Am I the only one who does this?
For those of you who are parents, do you ever look at your offspring and wonder where in the world a certain trait, personality, or skill came from? I mean, I sometimes wonder if some of those aspects just skip generations.
Papa’s and my young’uns are no longer children but are full-fledged adults. As they grew into maturity portraying certain abilities and skills, I often questioned how they possessed some of their talents.
I assumed somehow it was woven into their genes from an ancestor somewhere along the line because they certainly didn’t inherit some of those traits from their parents.
Like mathematics. All three of our kids excelled in that subject. And while Papa and I can balance our checkbook and perform basic math procedures, we are not stellar mathematicians.
Case in point: number one daughter. Our oldest, she has always been interested in everything science and excels in that field. She attained a molecular biology degree and during her career has worked in medical research. On top of that all, she’s a runner and participated in track and cross country.
Where did any of that come from? I’m sorry to say neither Papa nor I were top-notch science students, nor did we desire a career in that intensive field in any way. And we certainly are not runners. Fast walkers maybe, but running for competition and pleasure? No way.
Next is daughter two, also adept in math and science and even as a child, sensitive to others’ needs. She’s a medical professional and has worked at large hospitals attending to very sick patients. In the sports world, she shined in soccer until injuries halted play on her college team, so she too adopted running cross country.
Where did all that come from? Her parents aren’t necessarily full of mercy and sensitivity. Again, no proclivities for desiring a career taking care of sick patients in a hospital environment either. Heck, her Mama can’t deal with the sight or smell of regurgitation, let alone tend to ill people’s physical ailments. Neither Mama nor Papa ever showed any prowess at soccer either.
Then there’s the last one, our son. Skilled in mathematics, science, and a straight-A student with a lot of artistic bent, he also played four different sports: soccer, basketball, baseball, and track in high school. He acquired his bachelor’s and master’s degrees in mechanical engineering.
His parents? Not particularly athletic, certainly not merit-worthy scholars or artistically talented, and would not know a differential equation if it smacked us in the face (let alone know how to even begin to solve one).
Where do these abilities come from? Frankly, it stumps me when I pause to ponder it. Their mother holds a college degree in English and is only adept at writing, by no means math or science.
Their father’s bachelor of arts is in Criminology, for crying out loud. And even though his career was mostly in the sales business after serving in the military, he wasn’t the cream of the crop in math or science either.
So, can we attribute their skills and capabilities so very different from ours to recessive genes? Throwbacks to some ancestors? Who the heck knows?
I say all of this not to brag about our offspring, but to prove a point. Our kids amazed us with their abilities and talents and we’re thankful and appreciative for them.
Just in the last couple of years, we’ve been pleasantly astonished when our son demonstrated another of his talented sides. He remodeled the kitchen in a former home of his and our daughter-in-law’s.
It looked like this when they moved into the 60’s era house, which had been updated somewhat, before they owned it.
After their purchase of this home, our son redesigned and remodeled the kitchen himself and constructed the beautiful wood countertop on the center island and our talented daughter-in-law decorated their kitchen.
And it looked like this – something out of house beautiful magazine pages. The best part? Son really relished planning and completing this project.
That’s a plus – thoroughly garnering delight and satisfaction while using your talents. And that exactly describes the feelings I’ve experienced while writing this blog for over 11 years now. It’s not a chore, it’s a joy and a talent I’ve tried to use wisely.
From where do our talents, abilities, and skills come? This I know – hard work is part of it. My parents instilled that value in me, and Papa and I always encouraged our children to do their best and work diligently as well.
“Talent comes from God. If you have been given some, then value it, cultivate it, work and develop it.” ~Denzel Washington
But I also believe God graciously endows us with capabilities He wants us to use for His glory, to do His will, to somehow help others along the way.
And I believe each one of us possesses God-given gifts that He intends us to use for some purpose, a reason to be grateful even if that purpose isn’t completely obvious to us. He’ll show us if we listen for His instruction.
Each of us is a somebody, a person with talents that shouldn’t go to waste.
“God didn’t have time to make a nobody, only a somebody. I believe that each of us has God-given talents within us waiting to be brought to fruition.” ~ Mary Kay Ash