A good match

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He is tall. I am short. He loves seafood. I hate it.

He didn’t wear glasses until the last few years and needs them only for reading.  I’ve worn glasses since I was five years old and need those to make everything blurry clear.

He’s a terrible speller. I always excelled in spelling.  He admits he is not a writer and doesn’t enjoy doing so. I’ve always been a writer and it gives me joy.

He came from a family of brothers. I came from a family of sisters. He had lots of aunts, uncles, and cousins in his extended family.  I had only a handful.

His family vacationed at the Jersey shore every summer. My family took very few vacations and I never saw the ocean until I was a young adult.

He grew up in the city with bricks for a yard and no grass. I grew up in the country with a yard a couple of acres large to play in.

As a youngster, he ran up and down the halls of the Capitol building in our state capital while playing with neighborhood friends.  I rode up and down country roads on a bicycle playing with my neighborhood friends.

He has the patience to read the instruction manuals. I have little patience with them and tend to just wing it until I encounter a problem; then I turn to him and his instruction manuals.

He is usually slow to anger. I often possess a short fuse.

He takes his good old time working on projects. I want to hurry up and get them completed ASAP.

He loves all things historical and pertaining to the military and reads just about every display card in museums. I am more fascinated by the personal touches of history and am not interested in movies, books, or displays about wars or the military. I also am way ahead of him while making our way through museums.

He would love to go on a cruise someday. I am terrified of the concept.

You might say we have enough differences to prove we are not compatible at all. But you would be wrong. Our differences aren’t what define us. Our shared history together makes us who we are. And we are not totally mismatched; we do have several things in common.

We are a married couple who have spent the last 43 years together – dating for three years before marriage and this fall will mark 40 years since we said “I do” in front of family and friends.

We’ve endured separations when Papa was obligated for military duty far away, many moves, job changes, health scares, and difficult circumstances during our time together.

We’ve experienced grief and sadness, but we have shared so much joy and laughter as well. And through it all, we endured together. Ours isn’t a perfect relationship but it is one cemented with commitment, love, and respect for one another.

You might just say we are a good match after all (which happens to be this week’s photo challenge).

“It’s not about having the perfect relationship. It’s about finding someone who matches you and will go through everything without giving up.” ~ Unknown

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One year already

Yesterday was a milestone.  A year ago, our youngest, our only son, stood at a church altar and took a beautiful bride to be his wife.

The second such celebration in our family last year…

A day to remember…

And another member added to our family in love.

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Happy First Anniversary to son and daughter-in-law! 

May God bless you on your anniversary trip and in the years to come.

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.” ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

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Take a walk with me

blogtaking a walkThirty-four years ago today, a young man, who was so nervous he was sweating buckets, took the hand of a young woman, who was equally just as anxious because her stomach was turning flip flops, and the two of them took a walk down a church aisle.

Thus began their journey into married life, a commitment they made to one another that day over three decades ago.  They’ve chosen to honor and stay faithful to that commitment through the years past and for the years to come.

Their journey together hasn’t been smooth sailing.  They’ve encountered hills to climb, valleys to stumble through, rivers to cross, even chasms to bridge.  Life is never perfect and that certainly includes married life.

Those two commenced a life with white lace and promises and then ventured west into the sunset to live happily ever after.  They made their way alone without family nearby then faced an overwhelming challenge of being apart for an entire year while the young man served his country in a foreign land.

Their trek together has taken them to different areas of the country with twists and turns here and there.  Along the way, they’ve made adjustments, had their fair share of quarrels and disagreements, experienced disappointment, uncertainty, and even fear together.   But their love for one another endured on the journey producing great joy and building up of faith in the God they serve.

They’ve been blessed with three amazing children and continue to cherish the privilege of being parents.  They’ve watched those three grow, mature and, in the blink of an eye, become adults.  And now from a different perspective, they watch their children, in adult bodies with mature minds and spirits, find mates of their own.  Soon this couple will occupy a front row pew and witness another young couple in love, middle daughter and fiancé, take a walk down the church aisle.  It appears their other children will also take that walk in the near future.

This man and his wife find themselves amazed and a little dumbfounded that they’ve arrived at this season in life so soon.  They watched with heartache as their own parents grew elderly, succumbed to illnesses, and passed from this life.   And now, with a bit of sadness, they realize they have become the older generation.  However, there is still much love and joy to anticipate when their family expands with husbands for their daughters, a wife for their son, and hopefully a bevy of grandchildren.

The joy after all is in the journey.  And so they clasp hands once more, grateful for 34 years past and hopeful for more to come.

That couple is my husband and me.  Happy 34th Anniversary to my beloved, who stands by my side and yet always has my back,  picks me up when I’m down,  takes care of me in sickness and in health, and loves me no matter what.   Take my hand, my husband, and walk with me as we journey into the future on this first page in Chapter 10 of my book called Opportunity.

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The Glory of Love

Someone once wrote,  “Love isn’t love til you give it away.”

Love.   A myriad of works of literature, be it poems, plays, essays or novels, has been written on the subject of love.  

It is the theme of countless musical lyrics and the angst of many a late night discussion.  I’m pretty sure that there are close to 700 references to love in my guidebook for life — God’s Holy Word, the Bible.

In the English language, we only have one word for this emotion, which is such a shame because there are so many manifestations of love.  But before I digress from the idea swirling around in my mind,  today I want to share thoughts on romantic love and weddings.

I haven’t read much Shakespeare since a class on his works way back in college, but one line from his play, “A Midsummer Night’s Dream,” found a permanent little niche in my brain.   “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind….”  There’s more to the line, but that’s the part I remember.

When I think of romantic love, this quote personifies true love to me.   True love is as deep as the fathoms of the ocean and is vastly different than infatuation, which is like the shallow edge blogIMG_2005of the shoreline, where the waves rush in and knock you flat on your can, then just as quickly rush back out and leave you sitting in a pile of quickly shifting sand.

True love takes time.  True love involves mind and soul, not just body.  True love is precious, something to be revered and guarded and cherished.   And true love lasts for a lifetime.

It’s been my privilege to attend a couple of weddings this past year, one just yesterday.  My son was a groomsman in the first and best man in the recent one.  I marvel that both of these grooms, close friends of my son,  are now mature men, with college degrees in hand, careers already initiated, goals planned, and now each has chosen a lovely partner for life, a wife.

Both of these young men have lounged in my family room over the years, engrossed in video games; watched tons of movies on our TV; played games with our family, and slept on our couch.    The groom in yesterday’s wedding has been a part of our lives for quite some time; he’s like another member of our family.

In my son’s best man toast, he even joked that the two of them have been like twins.  My son and the groom have shared a friendship since 7th grade.  They’ve gone to school together, played sports together, celebrated and commiserated with each other,  and were college roommates.

So it was with great happiness my husband and I watched this particular young man exchange his wedding vows with his beautiful bride yesterday.  Wedding celebrations are naturally joyful.  I’ve attended several weddings in my day, but never have I witnessed more meaningful nuptials than these last two ceremonies.

What made both of these weddings so very special was that both young couples are believers in Christ and they made their relationship with Him a vital and integral part of their wedding service.  Jesus Christ was definitely at the center of these two weddings.

Yesterday, it seemed like Jesus was standing in the lovely, flower bedecked gazebo with the bride and groom, nodding His head in approval, exuding His love to these beautiful children of His, and showering His blessings on their union. 

And that made an amazing difference.  The marriage rituals were sacred; it wasn’t just two young people repeating words, saying “yeah, yeah, I do” so they could run off to live together legally.

Amid overcast skies and even a rain shower, love radiated like sunbeams from these two betrothed.   I am positively convinced the two of them are experiencing true love, the kind of love that looks not just with the eyes, but with the mind and soul.

There’s a reason a wedding is called holy matrimony.  God created marriage.   Jesus told us in the book of Mark, chapter 10:  “But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female.  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.  So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

He desires that we put Him at the very center of this sacred relationship.   Wise married couples do just that.

So I don’t just offer words of congratulations to this special newlywed couple, I offer prayers of thanksgiving because they know Jesus personally, prayers of hope that they continue to put Him first, and prayers of blessing for love that lasts a lifetime.

Yoked in holy matrimony with a fellow believer in Christ,  Jesus at the center of that relationship, and love that lasts for a lifetime — that’s my prayer for my own children as well.   And that’s the glory of love. ♥

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