I have a feeling my middle daughter had a tough time falling asleep last night.
I’m pretty certain she was too excited, wound up, happy, thrilled – the list could continue until I run out of adjectives – to let the Sandman visit her.
Why? I’ll let Dr. Seuss explain: “When you are in love you can’t fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams.”
Yesterday, my middle daughter’s dream became reality. That grown up young woman of 25, who has her own place, career and life but in my mind is still my joyful little girl, experienced a monumental day.
Her daddy and I wonder how all those years vaporized away so swiftly. How did we get to this empty nest stage when just yesterday (or so it seems) our house was full of youngsters and toys and noise? We blinked and our children became adults.
And now one of them is taking an even deeper step into adulthood. Our daughter became engaged yesterday!
The engagement wasn’t a surprise for us because her beloved one had already visited alone to formally ask for our daughter’s hand in marriage and our blessing before he even purchased the ring. Yes, he’s THAT wonderful!
We could tell he had spent much time in thought and prayer about this decision and he willingly shared his plan for how he would provide for their future together.
So after the blessing was given, he bought the ring and kept all of that a secret from her until yesterday when he proposed at one of their favorite outdoor spots. Daughter thought they were going to be models for a friend’s photography session there, so the proposal is caught on film for us to see.
A lot of emotions are swirling around in my heart and mind. Joy. For certain! Excitement. Definitely! Happiness. For her and him, the betrothed, and for both of our families! He already has fit into our family so well. (Gasp! I’m going to be a mother-in-law!!) She will be a sweet addition to his family. (Gasp! My daughter will have a mother-in-law!!)
But there’s just a tiny hint of melancholy floating around my heart too because my little girl really IS grown up, ready to embark on a life together with her beloved one.
And that is exactly how it should be according to my guidebook, the Bible: “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” ~ Matthew 19:4-6
Woven into my tapestry of joy today on Page 9, Chapter 4, in my book of Opportunity is a tiny thread of melancholy as we begin another life journey, preparing for our daughter’s marriage. We have more than a year to work on it though.
And I’m gaining another son! And the possibility of grandchildren! So I know the threads of joy will crowd out and overlap that twinge. But for now, I think I’ll go have a good cry.