My mind is absorbed with the idea of connections today.
My handy-dandy dictionary defines connection this way: 1. Union; junction. 2. A bond; link. 3. An association or relation. 4. Logical ordering of words or ideas; coherence. 5. The relation of a word to its context. 6. connections. People with whom one is associated.
There are connections everywhere we look. Business wise, you have “connections” to get a job, to win an account, to get ahead, to succeed, to get into this organization or that.
I’m not very mathematically minded, but I do remember that there are many connections that must be made in math as well. Geometry for one. Wikipedia says “In geometry, the notion of a connection makes precise the idea of transporting data along a curve or family of curves in a parallel and consistent manner. There are a variety of kinds of connections in modern geometry, depending on what sort of data one wants to transport.”
Of course, connections are essential in technology. I confess I also am not the most technologically savvy person, but I know that without my computer and yours being connected to the internet, I couldn’t write this and you couldn’t read it. For simplicity’s sake, connections in technology are like fasteners linking one thing to another.
There must even be connection in the world of dance. I’m also not a talented dancer, but I am absolutely enthralled watching dance. Even though I don’t dance myself –well, except in a wild and crazy way when I’m home alone and I have some tunes turned up loud — dancing makes my heart sing. And in dance, connection is defined as “a primary means of communication between the lead and the follow.”
Watch any dancing show on TV (So You Think You Can Dance and Dancing With the Stars are two of my favorite shows) and you will hear the judges talking about making a connection either between partners or with the audience.
In our personal lives we thrive on connections to have relationships, be they romantic or platonic. Remember the wacky TV show, Love Connection? No more goofy a way to make a dating connection with someone than today’s The Bachelor show, if you ask me. And then there is online dating — another attempt at connecting.
We humans have an inner desire to be bonded or linked with someone, we just don’t seem to know how to achieve it very well. I need to interject here that our Creator, the Lord God Himself, created us that way. It was He who instilled in us this need to be linked, to be joined, to be loved, and it is He who fulfills that desire. But He did not create us to be completely solitary, disconnected from our fellow human beings or from Him. That’s why He bridged the gap of disconnectedness between His holiness and our sinfulness, by sending His Son, Jesus Christ into this world to save us. Jesus is our LINK!
So back to connections….we all have family connections. Again we want to belong, to be associated with a group of people. I know, I know, there sometimes are family members we’d definitely rather NOT be associated with, but for the most part, we do want to belong to a family, be it native or adopted, blood-relations or family of God.
I just recently attended a “family reunion” that I have never attended in the past, partly because I lived elsewhere and partly because I didn’t really feel like I belonged. “Family reunion” is in quotations because even though technically I do belong to this family because I am a granddaughter of a person with this last name, I really don’t have many connections to this family. Matter of fact, most of them I do not even know.
The connections between my family and this extended family were long ago. My grandfather with this family name died in 1964. My mother who had this family name would be 91 if she were alive today. So yeah, far removed I am, as Yoda would say.
And then there is the theory of “6 degrees of separation.” You might have seen the movie by the same name. This theory is referred to as a human web and maintains the idea that everyone on the planet is at most 6 steps away from any other person on Earth. You can sing “It’s a Small World After All” here. Yes, you are quite welcome for me bringing up that inane song and now you will have it stuck in your head all day!
Connections, connections, we truly are inundated with connectivity. Then why is it that so many people feel the exact opposite? Why do we feel disconnected?
I speak for myself. For all the ways I am connected to others and to my Lord, in one aspect of my life, I feel very disconnected. Not in a depressive, moody, life stinks kind of way. In a vital part of my life, I am experiencing a huge disconnect. And I’m not the only one, my husband feels it too. (Don’t worry, my husband and I still are very connected to each other and our family, so that’s not it.)
I’ve been pondering this situation for quite some time now; my husband and I have talked it to death; we’ve prayed about it; waited; worked really hard at remedying it….and still we feel for us, it surely must be time to move on and make a change.
You know what Elton John used to sing? “Oh, the change is gonna do me good!”