Scratching that itch

blogIMG_0398Every winter, it happens.

The air turns dry when the cold temperatures set in and so does my skin, particularly my hands, legs, and feet.

I start to itch.  And then I start to scratch.

I should own stock in all the companies that make body lotions which claim to heal dry skin.  Over the years, I’ve tried them all.  Ones with lanolin, ones with glycerin, ones with aloe, ones with vitamins, minerals, CoQ10, and all kinds of secret magic ingredients.

And still I itch.  And still I scratch.

Ogden Nash once said, “Happiness is having a scratch for every itch.” 

Well, I beg to differ.  Scratching an itch is sometimes just a temporary solution.  My red, itchy skin morphs into redder, itchier, inflamed skin from scratching and that doesn’t exactly provide happiness, if you ask me.

Oh, I know, Nash probably wasn’t talking about literal itches and scratches.  Sometimes that itch is a yearning, a yen for something, and scratching it or satisfying it, trying to attain it, can make you happy.  Or so it seems.

It just doesn’t happen in the case of my irritated skin.

All this slathering on of lotion and scratching causes me to think about itchiness.  I know, my mind really does jump the train tracks sometimes.

I remember my grandmother and mom spouting old home-style proverbs about itchy things.  Like if your nose itched, that meant company was coming to visit you soon.  If your ears were itchy, someone was talking about you.  Or if the palm of your hand itched, money was coming your way!

Don’t you wonder where these ‘old wives tales’ came from?  I do.  The only one I can trace back to a written source is the itchy palm.  In Shakespeare’s play, Julius Caesar, Cassius proclaims, “I, an itching palm!” ~ Julius Caesar Act 4, scene 3, 7–12

According to some research, an itching palm was one that must be “scratched” with coins. In other words, Cassius was money hungry.

Why do we itch for things we can’t have?  Why aren’t we ever satisfied with what we do have?

Why do we say, “You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours?”  Why aren’t we content to just scratch our neighbor’s back without the need for him to return the favor to us?

It has to be because we humans are so self-centered.  We’re always itching for more to satisfy ourselves.

More money.  More stuff.  More glamour.  More food or drink.  More power.  More prestige.

The list goes on and on, and the scratching of those kind of itches goes on and on as well.

I found this old saying in my quotations notebook: “Home is where you can scratch where it itches.” Well, isn’t that the truth when we’ve got physical itchy spots?

But I find my heart and soul itch too. My heart and soul itch to serve God better, to spend more time with Him both in reading His Word and talking with Him.

God provides the source to relieve all of our itches and I am grateful for that.   That’s why I’m writing it on my heart that today is the best day of the year.  I’m thankful for God’s provisions – grace through my personal relationship with my Savior; a loving family and friends; a comfortable, warm home; a reliable car; enough food to eat; clean water to drink; and clothes to wear.

And, oh yes, my Gold Bond lotion, which acts as a soothing balm for my physically itchy skin, and my Bible, a solace to satisfy my spiritually itchy soul.

©2013 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

A Sandy Thanksgiving

View from Staten Island

They call themselves the forgotten.

But on Thanksgiving Day, 1,300 volunteers, including four of my own family, showed them that they are not discounted.

A few weeks ago, while our family prepared for a blessed time of celebration – our oldest daughter’s wedding – folks in Staten Island, a borough of New York City, were bombarded by a storm that changed the course of their lives, Hurricane Sandy.

Because of their location being separated from NYC by New York Bay, Staten Island residents say they feel disconnected from the city.  When the hurricane hit the outer shore of the island, the borough once again felt ignored and cut off as they pleaded for relief help.

Meanwhile, safe and unaffected by the storm except for a week of rain, my husband and I watched the news, saw the photos of devastation, but got busy with our family wedding.  While we experienced blessings secure in our home with loved ones, homes in Sandy’s path were destroyed and lives lost.

Fast forward a few days.  Our Thanksgiving plans involved traveling to the state next door to ours, one hit by the storm, to celebrate the holiday with newly married son and daughter-in-law.  The week prior to the holiday our son phoned us to ask if we might consider an alternative to our traditional Thanksgiving Day feast.

The church’s Sandy Thanksgiving relief effort

Without hesitation, we quickly agreed as he explained what he and our daughter-in-law had in mind.

Their church organized relief help for hurricane victims; our son had already volunteered a  Saturday mucking and cleaning out homes on Staten Island.

Next the church planned a Thanksgiving weekend relief effort called Sandy Thanksgiving.

With our consent, our son registered the four of us – son, daughter-in-law, Mama, and Papa to serve. Instead of stuffing ourselves with turkey and the trimmings, we would fill those in need with a helping hand and hope.

Some of the volunteers in our group

An army of volunteers outfitted in red t-shirts proclaiming ‘Jesus Loves Jersey’ descended on Staten Island to help clean out homes, distribute relief supplies, and provide food.

We met for our shifts at Gateway National Park and dispersed in small groups to zone stations within the area hardest hit.

Our son became leader for our group of ten.  He, daughter-in-law, my husband and five other young adults spread out in our zone to help clean up yards and houses.

Another lady and I agreed to man the food station where I became grill master, cooking hot dogs, hamburgers and sausage on a brand new propane gas grill.  We served hot sandwiches, chips, cookies, granola bars, drinks including water, coffee or soda, and pie to any hungry person who came by.

We distributed relief supplies from buckets and mops to work gloves and masks.  All the supplies and food were donated and we were instructed to distribute everything.  At the end of our work shift, the gas grill and ice chest would be given to a family in our zone that needed these items the most.

Mounds of debris

God planted us exactly where we were needed.  We were the hands, feet and words of Jesus as we ministered to those who still need so much help almost a month after the storm’s devastation.

As the rest of our crew threw their efforts and strong backs into clean-up with area residents,  I served others by offering a cheerful word, a hot sandwich, a cool drink, a place to sit and rest for a few minutes, and a listening ear.

Even if I couldn’t handle the clean-up work due to a finicky back and hip, I had legs to stand, hands to flip burgers, and kind words to dispense.  I believe I was placed there for a purpose.  God wanted me to witness small miracles with my eyes and ears so I could share them with others.

Near our zone station, Juan worked cleaning up his modest home, wrecked by the flood waters.  After just a few moments of talking with him, I could sense he was a gentle soul.  He spoke of God and His provision and care even though Juan’s home was ruined and unlivable.

Juan in front of his home

Juan pleasantly agreed to allow me to photograph him standing in front of his home so I could share it in this blog.

I told him I wanted folks to realize the need that still exists on the island he calls home.  He nodded and smiled and posed for me.

I soon realized that God placed my co-volunteer there for a purpose too. Juan is a mechanic, but many of his tools were lost or ruined in the flood waters.

My co-volunteer, Elaine, knew a recently widowed woman who wanted to give away her deceased husband’s mechanics tools.  Elaine would see that the tools would find their way into Juan’s hands.

Juan shared that his home owner’s insurance company claimed his policy was cancelled two days before the storm hit.  That spurred my new friend into action.

Fluent in Spanish, Elaine conversed with Juan about his situation.  From his truck, he produced insurance papers and proof that he had paid his premiums on time and the insurance company had acknowledged receiving them.

My co-volunteer knew exactly what to do because she works in real estate.   We agreed that this was definitely a “God thing.”  The Lord knew that Juan, an ardent believer, needed her help.

Amazing things happened on this Thanksgiving Day.  A vehicle pulled over  and the driver asked me if I knew so and so.  I replied, “No, I’m sorry, I don’t.”

As we talked, I realized he was not affiliated with my son’s church in any way.  The man explained, “I got a call to bring this food and meet him here.  I can’t find him.  Will you please take it and see that it is distributed to the people here?”

I agreed to do so.  He opened the back of his SUV where there were six boxes of sack lunches.

Each sack contained a large deli sandwich, a bag of chips, fresh pears and a bottle of water, all anonymously donated with no acknowledgement desired.

A pick-up truck pulling a trailer with construction tools stopped by next.  A handsome young man with a thick New York accent and his little dog, Bella, hopped out.

“I’ve got some boxes of pizza here – straight from my friend’s restaurant in Manhattan.  Can you please give these out?”

“This is no ordinary pizza,” he explained as he opened the top box to show me.  And it wasn’t.  It was pizza to die for.

“You’ll make sure that someone gets this, that it won’t go to waste?” he pleaded with me.  I assured him we would.   He told me he just needed to come to the island and help.  All of his family were eating Thanksgiving dinner; he was missing it but he didn’t care.

“They all think I’m crazy to do this, but I just gotta do it, ya know?”  he exclaimed as he grabbed Bella and jumped back in his pickup to go help somewhere else.

A construction company truck filled with workers drove by.  I yelled to them, “Are you hungry?  Do you need some lunch?”  They replied they were fine and drove on.

Later in the afternoon, they returned and asked if the offer still held.  They gobbled down hot dogs and sausage and exclaimed how good they tasted, thanking us profusely for providing it for them.

Another car arrived at our “block party.”  A young man emerged with a large container overloaded with fresh fruit – a whole pineapple, apples, grapes, clementines, pears, bananas.  Without a word, he deposited the fruit on our table. I thanked him with a “God bless you.”  He merely nodded, returned to his car, and drove away.

All afternoon, moments like that occurred.  The more we blessed folks, the more I felt blessed to be there in that moment.  The kindnesses I witnessed, the gratitude of those we served,  every minute was a memory-making moment that I’ll never forget.

As we cleaned up our station, loaded tables and chairs into a rented van, we discussed who to bless with the gas grill and cooler of leftover hotdogs and hamburgers.  One man came to mind.

This man evacuated his wife and children in plenty of time before the hurricane hit, but decided to stay and ride out the storm to protect their home from looters afterward.  As a wall of water descended on him, his decision forced him to swim from his home to a neighbor’s house which had a second story in order to survive.

Despite a bout with hypothermia, he had been working non-stop since the storm cleaning out his house and helping neighbors.  As my son and another volunteer helped this resident load the new grill onto his truck, this man confessed,  “I’m not used to being helped like this.  I feel like crying.”

A word of prayer

My son and co-volunteer asked if they could pray for him.   As I watched, I couldn’t help noticing how moved this man was by the experience.

And I thought to myself, “This is what we, the church – the body of Christ – are called to do, to be the hands and feet and words of Christ to our brothers and sisters in the world.”

What an amazing thing to be thankful for!

As the day came to a close, our son drove the rental van with tables and chairs back to the church’s make-shift headquarters at the park and I rode along.

We decided to walk down to the beach while we waited for my husband and daughter-in-law who were walking the several blocks back.

The beach proved peaceful and deserted.  No one else walked along the sand except the two of us.

Waves gently lapped at the shore as I shot a couple of pictures and marveled at how difficult it proved to envision an angry, out of control wall of water and wind forcing its way through this serene scene…until we turned around and saw the mounds of debris behind us.

I glanced at my son, my boy turned man.  My son who answered God’s call to help those who are hurting, those who need a helping hand, those who need hope to make it through another day.

I hugged my son tightly and said, “Happy Thanksgiving.  Thank you for bringing us here.  It’s the best Thanksgiving ever.”

As we turned to depart from the beach, I noticed God had painted yet another of my favorite scenes – a sunset.

Another day was ending.  Another day of life.  Another day for which to be most thankful.

Sunset on Staten Island

©2012 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Let the celebration begin

Christmas came early this year.  I am one of those traditionalists.  I prefer to decorate for the Christmas season only after Thanksgiving has passed.

That doesn’t mean I don’t love Christmas with its glitter and glow, good tidings, and best of all – the celebration of the most amazing gift God ever gave our world, His only Son Jesus Christ.

Yep, we’re all about the season here at Mama’s Empty Nest.  Just don’t expect me to deck the halls, play Christmas music, or enjoy the bauble-laden shelves of Christmas trimmings in the stores until  after Thanksgiving has been given its due.

I love Thanksgiving and I think, as a holiday, it gets the short stick.  Our culture bounces over it from Halloween to Christmas, commercialization all the way.

Sandwiched in between all the gaudy and frankly ridiculous Halloween junk and the holly-jolly holiday of Christmas, Thanksgiving seems like the red-headed step-child.  There, but shoved aside.  Sometimes forgotten in the hub-bub.

The Thanksgiving holiday spells F-A-M-I-L-Y to me.  It’s when as a family “we gather together to ask the Lord’s blessing.”  It’s the day we absolutely remember to be thankful and we say it out loud, even though we should practice this observance each and every day we have breath.

Thanksgiving is the day for enticing aromas of homemade dishes of goodness.  It promises hugs and laughter as family members arrive home.  It reveals itself in the glow of candlelight illuminating the faces of loved ones around the dining room table.  It speaks comfort and peace of a full nest once again.

So I don’t rush full force nor ahead of time into the harried hurry scurry of preparing for Christmas before the Friday after Thanksgiving.  I like to take my time to first savor the Thanksgiving holiday.

But Christmas came early this year with a gift.  A surprise gift.  A gift presented to me that left me speechless – not an easy task.

When our oldest daughter and new son-in-law arrived back from their exotic honeymoon trip,  Papa and I greeted them at the airport and transported them back to the empty nest.  We then pitched in to pack up daughter’s remaining belongings and all the wedding gifts for the trip to their new home several hours away from us.

Papa and I happily observed and commented as the newlyweds opened their wedding gifts.  Afterwards, Papa disappeared from the family room and then returned carrying a box wrapped in Christmas paper, which he deposited on my lap.

My brain couldn’t process what my eyes were seeing and my hands were holding.  A Christmas gift?  Now?  For me?  What the heck?

I think I actually may have babbled all of that out loud while still wracking my mind for an explanation.  Daughter and son-in-law beamed at me;  Papa smiled with that coy, all-knowing grin he has.

And I was stumped.  Really stumped.  I kept asking why?  What are you doing?  The only answers I received were admonitions to stop asking so many questions and just open the thing!

I started to rip that red and green wrapping paper off that so boldly announced Merry Christmas, then stopped and said, “I don’t understand!”  I mean, everyone in my family knows I don’t rush Christmas!

More cries of “Just open it!” ensued.  So I did.  Inside was something that I never expected.  Something that surprised me beyond words.   The sight of it simply astonished me.

Totally bewildered and perplexed, I asked my husband again, “Why?”  He explained that he wanted me to have this present because of all the effort, time, and love I had poured into our three adult children’s weddings.

He bestowed this gift to me because he knew I’d be so very excited to receive it as it was an item I’ve mentioned for a long time that I’d like to acquire but didn’t feel like we could spend the money to purchase — especially this year. 

And giving this gift was hubby’s way of showing me his appreciation and love.  He wanted me to have it now, before Christmas, so I could use and enjoy it when the holiday rolls around.

His words and that gift made me cry.  When I tried to speak, I couldn’t, only tears surfaced.

This gift, purchased in secret with daughter’s help, rendered me dumbstruck.  Inside the opened box lay a brand new digital SLR camera to replace my little purple Nikon Coolpix point and shoot.

My husband explained that he’s realized how much I’ve relished taking photographs in the last couple of years and how frustrated I get with my small and simple digital camera.  It takes good pictures outside, but indoor photos always disappoint me.  And it’s so slow, I miss a lot of neat photo opportunities.

So now, I have much to learn with this new camera, but oh, what a joy it is to use.  Matter of fact, after I recovered from my shock, read enough of the accompanying instructions to figure out how to take my first picture with it, I ran outside to start shooting.  (To your left I’ve shared a product of my eagerness.)

But not before I thanked my loving husband for such an awesome gift and thanked my Lord for such an awesome husband.

Celebrating Christmas early this year feeling loved and appreciated?  Priceless.

So hey there, Christmas season, I’m ready to start the celebration….just let me express my thanksgiving first.

©2012 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Catching my breath and saying thanks

blogDSCN8700Henry Kissinger supposedly said, “There cannot be a stressful crisis next week.  My schedule is already full.”

That’s exactly how I’ve been feeling this week.  Mama’s nest may be empty, but her schedule is not only full but overloaded!

 To say it’s been busy here lately is a gross understatement.

With all THREE of my children getting married this year, the pace of life has ratcheted up several notches!

Here’s a run-down of my week’s calendar since last Friday.

  • Friday, January 27 – Drive into city to go with both daughters for evening appointment at bridal salon.  Grab fast food dinner on way to salon.  Watch oldest daughter try on several gowns.  More to come on that!  She did say yes to the dress! (And we were there until past closing time!)
  • Saturday, January 28 – Clean house, run to grocery store in morning.  Visit yet another wedding reception venue with oldest daughter, fiancé, and Papa in afternoon.  After preparing decent sit-down dinner for four, try to relax and watch movie with family.
  • Sunday, January 29 – Attend church and then visit another wedding reception venue. Say goodbye to oldest daughter’s fiancé on his way back to that other state and say hello to middle daughter who came home from the city for more wedding planning.  Spend all evening researching wedding ideas, invitations, cakes, flowers, etc. with oldest daughter and planning the next two days’ activities with middle daughter.
  • Monday, January  30 – Work all day.  Call church to book oldest daughter’s wedding date.  Receive text message from her that chosen reception venue site is now taken on that date.  Call church again to ask for other open dates and chose one.  Text daughter.  Call church again (by now, the secretary must think I’m insane!) to confirm and book a different date.  Immediately upon return home, run to craft store with middle daughter to purchase decoration supplies.  Turn the kitchen into a wedding preparation station, but still take time to watch “The Bachelor” with middle daughter so we can complain about all the annoying girls on the show.
  • Tuesday, January 31 – Take day off work to perform various tasks with middle daughter including cutting, gluing, making lists, searching online, and general wracking brain for ideas.  Stop.  Drive to chiropractor’s appointment to be cracked, popped, stretched, and adjusted because hip is really acting up.  Feel sick afterwards but decide there’s no time for that.  Meet oldest daughter at 5 p.m. appointment at reception venue to sign contract and make deposit.  Come home, grab dinner, and order decorating items found online.
  • Wednesday, February 1 -  Go to work and try to accomplish as much as possible.  Attend co-worker’s family member’s memorial service with other co-workers.  Grab dinner and head off to church with hubby for Bible study, which he is leading.  Check email and note that son sent a link to his engagement photos with fiancée.  Quickly glance at all 187 photos and decide to table deciding on favorite one for another day.  Spend restless and sleepless night.
  • Thursday, February 2 – Go to work with headache and toothache (probably from stress).  Go straight from work to chiropractor’s appointment.  Meet hubby at home, grab quick dinner, and proceed to church for evening event with guest speaker (dear friend of mine). Remember to show son’s online engagement photos to hubby.  (Still haven’t picked which one to use for engagement announcement.)
  • Friday, February 3 – Try to organize bridal bombardment that’s taken over dining room.  Chat by phone with sister to arrange for trip out of town next week to search for mother of the bride dress (that’s right, I still don’t have a dress to wear for wedding number one!)  Run to nearby fabric store in search of elusive item needed for table centerpieces.  Come home disappointed and empty handed.  Turn to the internet to search for item, still not found.  Spend way too much time viewing wedding sites.  And finally, log in to neglected blog where I find I’m very behind in approving comments, replying to comments, not to mention reading my favorite fellow bloggers’ posts.

That’s been my week in a nutshell, with no end in sight.  By the end of this year, I will have scads of time to devote to whatever I want, including this blog.  For now, I’m just trying to keep my head above water and my body from collapsing.  Breathe, breathe, just breathe.  That’s become my new mantra.

All of this is my feeble attempt to explain why I haven’t responded to some very kind and encouraging people who lauded my blog with more awards back in January.

I’ve been remiss in not acknowledging and publicly thanking the generous fellow writers who bestowed honor on me and I’m so sorry for that.  Kate at Believe Anyway graciously sent two such awards my way.  One was the HUG Award, created by blogger Connie Wayne.   If you’d like to know more about this award, you can read about it here.  Thank you, Kate, for deeming my blog worthy of this honor.

Kate also passed One Lovely Blog Award on to Mama’s Empty Nest.  There are no rules for this award, and I find myself grateful for that because, frankly, I just don’t have time to follow a list of rules right now.   All of my blogging buddies have most lovely blogs, so if you’re reading this, you’re a blogger, and I read your posts, please consider yourself named as One Lovely Blog!

Another new friend, Dor from Technicolor Day Dreams,  bestowed the Versatile Blogger upon me.  Thank you, Dor, for thinking of me in this category.  I appreciate your nomination very much and I’m enjoying getting to know you!

I received this award once before and followed the rules then, which are: thank the person who nominated you and link back to them in your post;  share seven things about yourself; pass the award on to 15 more bloggers, and contact the bloggers you have chosen to let them know they have been selected.  But this time around, forgive me for not following the rules and passing on the award.

I’m truly thankful for these new friends and their sweet recognition.  Their encouragement gives me joy on this day in my book of Opportunity.

I’m just sorry I can’t participate in the award giving as much as I’d like to, but honestly, I’m just trying to tread water here the last few weeks and it doesn’t look like that will change any time soon.

Breathe, breathe, breathe.  And in the meantime, give thanks.

Copyright @2012 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Mutual admiration society

Reader Appreciation Award

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” ~  Voltaire

Another year soon comes to a close…a year of writing in my book called Opportunity.  So many of you have joined me on this journey by subscribing and reading my posts this past year.

As we say goodbye to 2011, I think it’s fitting that I write about another blog award, The Reader Appreciation Award, bestowed upon me from my friend, Georgette at Georgette Sullin’s Blog.

I appreciate this gracious lady -not because she’s presented awards to me – because she’s a faithful reader and ardent commenter of this blog.  Reading her kind thoughts and tidbits of info she leaves in my comment box gives me pleasure.   Receiving a notification that she’s written a comment on a post I’ve just published is like finding a little surprise gift left on my front porch.

This recent award is slightly different from all of the others because it recognizes your blog’s top readers by the number of comments they’ve posted and really, where would we writers be if we had no readers?   We would not receive feedback, suggestions, encouragement, or support if it weren’t for these wonderful people.

I, for one, never miss reading Georgette’s blog and because she writes about such interesting topics, I usually comment to let her know how much I enjoy her writing or mention something I want to share with her.   My comments earned me a spot on her reader’s appreciation award post.

When she honored me with this award, she blessed me with her descriptive words:  “This reader shares her faith journey through her online journal. It is thoughtful, reflective and beautifully written. I enjoy each of her stories that usually focus on family, among my favorite topics.”

Thank you, Georgette, for the lovely sentiment and the award!  But enough about me, this post is about you, you, and you, my readers.  Now it’s my turn to show my appreciation to top readers by passing on the Reader Appreciation Award to these honorees.  The following are the rules for this award:

  • Award your top 6 bloggers who have commented the most.
  • Be thankful.
  • You cannot award someone who has already been awarded. And you cannot give the award back to me.
  • Don’t forget to tell the bloggers you’ve awarded.
  • If you don’t want to pass on this award, that’s okay too.

Blog statistics rate top readers by the total comments they’ve made, not how many times they’ve read my blog.  Actually my first two top readers are Georgette and Dianna over at These Days of Mine (another of my faves!), but since they have already received this award, I can’t “re-gift” it back to them.   I appreciate them both very much though for all the encouragement they graciously bestow on my writing endeavors.

My next top reader, Just Me, is a dear friend from my days of living in the Pacific Northwest and alas, she doesn’t blog.  But she deposits meaningful and sweet words on my posts to let me know what she thinks.  I am most grateful for her friendship and the thoughts she leaves for me to enjoy.

So my next top readers who also are fellow bloggers include: [drum roll, please]

  1. My good friend, Homestead Ramblings, with whom I connected shortly after I started my WordPress blog.  We started an instant kinship and I know we’ll be friends for life.  When I was feeling a real disconnect with many things in my world,  God caused our paths to cross.  I’m so grateful for HR’s friendship, her caring consideration,  and her always supportive comments.
  2. Susan, who writes Coming East, gets me.  Her thoughtful comments make me laugh and nod my head in agreement.  I sure hope I do the same for her because I’ve enjoyed getting to know her through her blog.
  3. My lovely and gentile friend, Saturday Evening Front Porch is another buddy I’ve had since the early stages of my blog.  Through our empty nest connection, we found each other, and we learned that we have much in common, even though I’m a Northern gal and she’s a Southern belle.  I always appreciate her humor and her gracefulness.  She’s a gem.
  4. Montucky is a fairly new friend.  He takes the most breathtakingly beautiful photographs out in his home state of Montana.  Even though my photos are very amateur and I use a simple point and shoot digital camera, he encourages me with his kind comments.  Thank you, Montucky!
  5. Patty over at The Fearless Cooking Club likes my blog often and that plus her comments make me smile.  Don’t go to her blog if you’re hungry because she posts the most amazing pictures of  the delicious food she makes and you’ll find yourself drooling!
  6. Two fairly new blogging friends tied for 6th place with their comment totals –  HappyKidsHappyMom who writes Play 101 and Yen at One Thing.  Both of these younger ladies make my day sparkle when I read their comments, and I love the inside peeks they give me into their lives through their blogs.  Thank you, sweet ladies!

I know there are many, many more faithful readers who click on my little blog-space out there in cyber world but don’t leave comments.  My stats tell me you’re out there…reading.  And I thank you wholeheartedly.  The leaps my statistics chart demonstrates when you visit my blog makes my grateful-meter jump too!

So to all my loyal readers, I’m not sure why you keep coming back to read my rantings observations on life, but thank you, thank you very much for doing so.  I appreciate each and every one of you, even if I don’t know who you are.  (Just a hint – why not leave a message telling me why you keep coming back?)

As I close my book of Opportunity (2011), we’ll soon embark on a new adventure in the new year – 2012 – just around the corner.  I hope you come along with me for the ride and join me in our mutual admiration society.

 ©2011 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Burning off the fog

blogDSCN8213The revolving door at Mama’s Empty Nest never stopped spinning over Thanksgiving.

A whirlwind of activity from last Wednesday until yesterday evening kind of left me in a fog this morning, much like this picture outside my kitchen window.

The door rotated open first when Oldest Daughter and Best Beau drove up from the city Wednesday evening.  BB made the trip up from one of those states down south to spend Thanksgiving with us…well, mostly to spend it with Oldest Daughter.  This one is definitely a keeper, and it has been a blessing to watch their relationship deepen from friendship to something more.

Again the door blew open later that night when Son arrived from his long trek from the state next door.  Mama put some finishing touches on Thanksgiving goodie preparations, and we basked in each other’s company until our eyelids started drooping.

Early Thanksgiving morning, Middle Daughter,  white scrubs clad and surprisingly talkative and chipper despite having just worked a 12-hour nursing shift at her hospital plus a drive home from the city, pushed open the revolving door.  Faithful Fiancé couldn’t join us as he didn’t have much time off from his graduate school studies in the state on the other side of us.

With all of the chicks back in the nest once again, I think Middle Daughter pined a bit for her true love and was too excited to be home with her siblings to want to nap.  But gradually she nodded off on the love seat while watching the Thanksgiving Day Parade on TV (another family tradition).

We feasted on turkey and all the trimmings, including Mama’s kids’ favorite, frog eye salad, but not before we each took turns around the table to count and name our blessings, one by one.  As I surveyed the beloved faces gathered at the table and listened to each item for which they were thankful, a realization suddenly dawned on me.

Next year, when I carefully position my mother’s china on the Thanksgiving table, there will be more place settings, but more importantly, there will be more beloved faces.  Middle Daughter and Faithful Fiancé will be a married couple, so our family will increase by one for certain.

Mama’s also alerted to inklings about more exciting news in the empty nest, so I suspect our family will welcome two others, Oldest Daughter’s Best Beau and Son’s Gracious Girlfriend, sometime soon.   As I savored the opportunity to glimpse into the future, it filled me with joy and I silently uttered thanks to the One who ordains our days.

Whoosh!  That revolving door swept open again.  One of Son’s buddies from high school stopped by for a visit and we all commenced a lively game of Qwelf around the kitchen table.   Another spin of the door, and my sister and brother-in-law joined us from their celebration at their son’s in-laws.  The table expanded and Thanksgiving morsels spread out once again.

And just as the door brought them in one by one or two by two, the door opened again to allow their departure.  High school buddy left first, followed by my sister and her hubby.   Son departed to journey to his girlfriend’s family’s home for the remainder of the weekend.

Friday afternoon, more of Mama’s favorite people stepped through the revolving door on their way out.  Oldest Daughter and Best Beau exited to drive south for BB’s family Thanksgiving; Middle Daughter ventured westward to visit Faithful Fiancé.

And Mama and Papa were left with a closed revolving door.  And oodles of Thanksgiving leftovers.  And countless Thanksgiving blessings.

There was no cause for despair though, the door whirled open once more yesterday evening as Son and Gracious Girlfriend visited for a short while on their way back East.

So even though fog crept in this morning, in Chapter 11, Page 28 of my Opportunity book, the love and bonds of family light up my heart and the warmth left there burns off the fog, that misty wrapping of melancholy that once filled the empty nest.  The revolving door will once again burst open because this house, even though it’s the empty nest,  is home.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”  ~ Alexander Graham Bell

©2011 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Thanksgiving blessings

blogDSCN8156Thanksgiving

by Ralph Waldo Emerson

“For each new morning with its light,

For rest and shelter of the night,

For health and food, for love and friends,

For everything Thy goodness sends.”

Here at Mama’s Empty Nest, we give thanks today,  this Page 24, Chapter 11 in my book entitled Opportunity, to the One who provides our needs.

May you be blessed with love, family, and friends on this special day and may you have many blessings to count.

Happy Thanksgiving!

“Know that the Lord is God.

   It is He who made us, and we are His;

   we are His people, the sheep of His pasture.

Enter His gates with thanksgiving

   and His courts with praise;

   give thanks to Him and praise His name.

 For the Lord is good and His love endures forever;

   His faithfulness continues through all generations.”

~Psalm 100:3-5

©2011 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Counting blessings, a family legacy

blogscan0004Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays of the year and it is right around the corner of next week.

My family and I have so much for which to be thankful.

As often happens when I think about the blessings I’ve been given, I immerse myself in the waves of nostalgia for memories that envelope my heart in gentle, caressing folds of love.

In the last years of my maternal grandparents’ lives, they resided with my parents and me.  Both Grandpa and Grandma died, within six months of each other, the year I turned nine.  So my childhood memories of them are brief but certain aspects of our life together remain vividly ensconced in my mind.

One of those cherished vignettes is sitting side by side with my grandmother in her favorite rocking chair singing hymns as we rocked in time.   Grandma may not have realized it,  but she instilled God’s Word in my heart with those “hymn sings” we shared.  She also taught me valuable life lessons through the words of those songs, one of which was to be thankful for my blessings.

I distinctly remember those song lyrics and one particular hymn has been swirling around my mind all week.  Today, this Sunday, in my book of Opportunity, Chapter 11, Page 20, we sang this old hymn, Count Your Blessings, in worship at our country church.

My husband and I worshiped God today in the sanctuary of this church  - where we were married and where middle daughter will marry her true love in a few months; where both of my parents grew up as members; where all four of my grandparents belonged; where my great-great grandparents were two of eight founding members back in 1820 – this church which was built upon ground donated by those great-great grandparents.

As I sang this well-loved tune, I thought about the legacy of my family heritage in this church.  In my mind’s eye, I envisioned my ancestors who worshiped God in that very spot all those long years ago.

But mostly as I heard those familiar musical notes, I could picture my elderly grandmother and my little childhood self in our living room at home, rocking in that special chair, and praising God as two voices – one worn, weathered, and cracked and one young, high-pitched, and tender –  sang:

When upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed,

When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,

Count your many blessings, name them one by one,

And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.

    Refrain:

    Count your blessings, name them one by one,

    Count your blessings, see what God hath done!

    Count your blessings, name them one by one,

    Count your many blessings, see what God hath done.

So I am counting my many blessings and naming them one by one.  Even though this year had its challenges, I’m thankful.   One of my blessings is being the wife of my true love and mother of three amazing adults who come back to the empty nest from time to time for visits.

This past fall, our oldest daughter moved back to our nearby city from a state down south and it’s so good to know she’s within easy driving distance again.   Recently, she told me this: “I love being 10 minutes from one of my best friends, 35 minutes from my mom and dad and 10 feet from my sister!”  (They share an apartment in the city.)

Sounds like she’s very grateful and counting her blessings as well.  I’m hopeful that counting our blessings will always be an essential element in our family legacy.

©2011 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com

Coming to a city near us

All last weekend, it felt like my family was in the movie “Madagascar”  because our theme song was “Move It.”

I felt like King Julian, that crazy ol’ lemur in the movie who sings “I like to move it, move it.  She likes to move it, move it.  He likes to move it, move it.  You like to…MOVE IT!”

blogDSCN7913If you follow my blog, you know that I’m not fond of flying anymore.  But in the interest of time, I boarded that magic silver jetliner which transported hubby, middle daughter, and me to the Deep South last Friday for a mission – to help oldest daughter move back to our home state, to the city near us.  [happy dance here]

We arrived safely (no problems or delays) in her southern city late Friday night.  Oldest daughter and boyfriend (aka BF) picked us up at the airport and whisked us off to her apartment, which was in various stages of disarray with moving boxes, suitcases, packing tape, etc.

A crew of daughter’s work friends arrived early Saturday morning and after a hearty breakfast from Chick-fil-A, (I’ve never eaten chicken in a biscuit for breakfast before, but it was good!), we started loading up the U-Haul truck for the trek back home.  MOVE IT!

I watched with tears in my eyes as oldest daughter hugged her friends goodbye and they had a crying moment.  I find moving is always bittersweet – sad because you leave good friends and memories behind, yet exciting as you venture on to a new chapter in your life.

blogDSCN7914All loaded and locked down, apartment cleared out and cleaned, we left the city oldest daughter has called home for the last four years with a caravan  – MOVE IT! – hubby and I in the U-Haul, daughters and BF in oldest daughter’s car, to our destination stop for the night.

BF’s gracious parents invited us to stay at their home, which also gave us the opportunity to finally meet them.   We were treated to showers, comfortable beds, and a delectable breakfast the next morning and the joy of meeting daughter’s boyfriend’s wonderful family.

Joining us were BF’s sister and brother-in-law who offered to travel back home with us to help unload.  What a blessing they were!  We packed our overnight cases once again, climbed in the vehicles, and hit the road.  This time we had us a convoy with the truck, daughter’s car, and BF’s car.  MOVE IT! 

blogDSCN7916After our several hours long trip, we arrived in the city near us where we unloaded some of daughter’s furniture and belongings in the apartment she will soon share with middle daughter and her roommate.   MOVE IT!

Since middle daughter will move out of the apartment next spring when she marries fiancé, we decided to take advantage of the U-Haul and move some of her furniture to – you guessed it – our basement for storage.  So once again, we loaded the truck with a few pieces of middle daughter’s larger furniture mixed in with the rest of oldest daughter’s belongings to store.  MOVE IT!

By this time, old mom and dad were starting to drag from all the physical exertion,  long nights, early mornings, not to mention all the hours of driving.   Our little caravan headed to our home in the country, where all of us (7 humans and oh, did I mention a CAT?) were so relieved and happy to be out of the vehicles.

But the task wasn’t over yet.  MOVE IT!  After dinner, we still had to unload the truck and cart all of middle daughter’s furniture, some of oldest daughter’s furniture, and all her boxes of stuff to be stored into our basement.  By then, it was dark, a little rainy, it was late, and hubby needed to return to work the next day.  Oldest daughter also needed to arise early in the morning to attend orientation for her new job in the city.  MOVE IT!

The next morning, Dad and Daughter left for work, and the rest of us lounged a bit, but not long because after breakfast, BF and his sister and bro-in-law needed to be on the road again back to their home.  MOVE IT!

After everyone departed, my move it energy depleted, I couldn’t move it if I tried.  I confess I spent the afternoon on the couch in dreamland and after a 3-hour nap(!), I realized middle daughter was conked out as well.

The only creatures at our house who seemed to be ready to move it were the two cats (ours and oldest daughter’s), but that’s another story for another day.  Today in Chapter 9, Page 15, in my book of Opportunity, I’m so grateful God granted us safe travel.  And I’m elated He provided a new job for oldest daughter in the city near us.  I will cherish the couple of weeks that she stays here with us in the empty nest until she moves into the city apartment.

But I’m still feeling the effects of ‘moving it’ so I’m headed for the couch…again.  If you’re feeling the urge to ‘MOVE IT,’ please don’t call me.  Right now, I don’t like to move it, move it, no matter how much King Julian’s little ditty usually makes me want to dance.

Copyright  ©2011 mamasemptynest.wordpress.com